Jun 26, 2015

5 Things I’ve learned in 3 Years of Marriage

Today is our third wedding anniversary.  Saying I DO three years ago was definitely the best decision I ever made – at least I thought it was. He-he! Daniel and I have been through a lot. We fought our way through everything.  Life slapped me with the harsh reality that marriage is not an easy thing. I’ve actually learned so much in the last 3 years of being married to my best friend. Here are few things I discovered.

1. Marriage is Hard Work, It’s Not All About Romantic Dates and Lots of Sex
I think everyone knows that this is true, but it would only make sense if you experience it. When I got married, I thought it’s a done deal. We know each other well, we love each other, and the rest should be fine. But it’s really not like that. It takes a lot of hard work. We’ve had crazy arguments that gave me random stupid thoughts which include “I want us to break up” moments. But we’ve also had times where we just didn’t stop laughing.

After 3 years of being together, marriage to me is more like a game of love and war. But the more we get to know each other and work hard on our differences, the more we create a beautiful marriage. We still have a long way to go, but with our hard work and commitment, I know we can make it.

2. Spend time to talk, to share, to listen and to understand.
Communication plays a really big part in our relationship. Since we are in a long distance set up, we work on our communication harder than those who are living together. There were times in the past that I just assumed what Daniel was thinking, and that everything was just fine even without talking. But heck, it doesn’t really work that way. You have to speak up what’s on your mind, and to listen and understand what the other has to say.

3. You’ll both mess up, forgive anyway.
Marriage taught me how to give unlimited forgiveness to someone…and to let the anger go before it destroys your marriage. Everyone has issues, and our marriage is no different. It was when I dropped my expectations with Daniel and accept him together with his imperfections and flaws, that I started feeling - actually knowing - that our marriage is truly working out.

4. “I Love You” Can Fix Everything.
Daniel is amazing. I don’t know how he’s able to handle me, but he always does something great during an argument. I am maldita, but Daniel is a cool person who doesn’t like fighting me. Whenever we are arguing, he’d just say, “I love you” right in the middle of my furiousness. I am not sure if he was just randomly saying that or he really meant it, but it works. When he does that, it makes me laugh and I feel good after.  That’s probably the secret to our getting-stronger-happy-marriage life.

5. Marriage is definitely not a fairy tale.
I hate to burst some idolized bubble of single dreamers; marriage is not a fairy tale. In real life, marriage is more like a horror or thriller movie – where you keep screaming for your life. Ha-ha! It’s sounds grim, but the suffering is not in vain. It’s the least romantic part of marriage that would teach you about yourself, your partner, and the nature of your love. In the long run, you’d unlock those surprising treasures and pleasures in your imperfect but real-life love story. Then you can look back on your hard-fought story and bask the pleasure of your own happy-ever-after.

For the last 3 years, it’s the hard time that brings Daniel and me closer to each other. The key is to always find the good in your partner, compliment each other and be the biggest fan, respect and cherish each other, maintain your interests and forgive constantly. And don’t forget that thing called unconditional love.

To my every dearest Husband…Happy 3rd Wedding Anniversary. If a picture is worth a thousand words, then my gratefulness to God for leading me to you, my love, is a video. I love you, and thank you for sticking with me through all these years. I know it’s a challenge! Ha-ha! I miss you, and I’ll see you soon! Kisses!

Jun 18, 2015

A Tribute to My Loving Cat, Blake, Who Died Today

Exactly 5 months and 8 days ago, I met this beautiful black cat. And I fell in love with him right at that very moment.  He’s Mama Cat’s first born. I carried his body, full of blood, while I was helping Mama Cat clean him. I heard his first “meow” which made me laugh because it was too cute. 

Days and months later, Blake grew up to be a very smart, independent, sweet and loving kitty. He’s the first one to use their shared litter box…he sort of showed Cookie and Amber how to use it. He’s the first one who tried and ate both soft and dry food. He’s always the first to learn new things and tricks.

But as much as he likes playing with his siblings, he loves being with me more. He devoted himself to me. He always sleeps next to me, or sleeps on my lap when I am working. He always gives me loving kisses. When I came home, he ran to greet me. And often, he licked my face with his sand-papery tongue, trying to scrape my stress away. And when I cry, he’s always right there, sitting next to me. 

Blake lived his life loving me. It was always in his eyes how much he adored and loved me. Even in his final glance, I felt his love for me. He fought so hard to live few more minutes for us to say goodbye. He closed his eyes after I gave him a kiss on the forehead. 

My life would be hard moving forward. I’ll miss the night time and sleep time without Blake. I’ll miss his body right next to me, or on top of my head. I’ll miss waking up to those kisses he’s been giving me.  I know I would be having trouble moving on. Only God knows if I will ever get over the grief and heartache. 

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Goodbye my precious sweet, beautiful boy, and thank you. I will never forget you and those 5 wonderful months you were with me.  I love you…and I will always do. I will see you on the other side of the rainbow bridge, sweetheart. Kisses! 

Jun 11, 2015

Pizza Wars: CPK Philippines Pizza Chef Competition

Last Tuesday, June 9, bloggers and guests were invited to witness the finale of California Pizza Kitchen’s first-ever Pizza Chef Competition, the Pizza Wars. Three Chefs were competing using their original pizza recipes, for a chance to win 25,000 pesos. Aside from the cash reward, the winning pizza will be included in CPK’s Annual celebration of National Pizza Day in August and also, it will be added in CPK’s menu which is scheduled to be rolled out last quarter of this year.

Pizza Wars is CPK’s new adventure, designed to inspire CPK’s in-house chefs to be more passionate and creative with their craft.  The competition, started off with a store level elimination wherein each store selected one representative for the semi-finals. From the ten entries, top 3 chefs and original recipes were chosen to move to the finals. The finalists were Romel Panaligan (CPK Alabang), Leah Castillones (CPK Eastwood), and John Chloe Oplejeda (CPK Trinoma).


I couldn’t quite place my finger on it but there was something about Chef Leah Castillones’s pizza, the Steak with Mushroom + Truffle Pizza. It tasted so familiar. She used Truffle sauce as the base and topped with Mozzarella, Fresh Mozzarella, wild mushroom, and the delicious grilled steak. 

I’m impressed with Chef Romel Panaligan’s pizza, The Farmer’s Choice. It was actually my personal choice when we were given a chance to vote. I love the idea of a vegetarian pizza with a twist, and he did an amazing job with it. He used roasted squash as the base topped with Mozzarella, Fresh Mozzarella, grilled eggplant and zucchini, cherry tomatoes and desiccated coconut. It looked incredible, with vibrant colors and a stack of different textures and shapes. The pizza actually smells like “Bukayo” – it makes the pizza more appetizing. 

Chef John Chloe Oplejeda’s pizza, The Elvis Pizza, was a dessert pizza inspired by the King of Rock & Roll’s favorite sandwich. He used peanut sauce as the base topped with Mozzarella, crispy bacon, banana topped with candied walnuts and peanut butter gelato. This one tasted as good as it looked, but less bacon would make it taste better, I guess. 


During the competition, each chef was judged on their creativity, execution, taste, appearance and marketability of their creation. The three of them were already winners, but it was Chef Romel Panaligan’s The Farmer’s Choice pizza that wowed the judges (Mr. Rodriguez and Mr. Griffith Go, CFO of GRCI and celebrity chef, Mr. Rolando Laudico).  Chef Romel Panaligan from CPK Alabang Town Center went home with the title and received P25,000 cash.

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